“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou
I don’t normally post about current events on my blog. The last time I posted about anything happening in the world was when Trump was elected. In that post, I swore that I would no longer sit back and let others do the work. And I meant it.
I doesn’t feel right for me to go back to regular blogging without talking about the events of the past two weeks. When it comes to racism, I never thought I had to do anything because I am not racist. The past weeks have opened up my eyes to all of the work that I can and need to do, and all the ways that I have fallen short, especially now that I have M.
I am also not sure if this blog post is even appropriate because none of this is about me. I am uncomfortable talking about the things that I am doing because it seems performative to do so. But I wanted to just share a few things that I am doing because they are so simple that anyone can do them. And I think it’s important for people to see and know that.
First, I am reading and learning. I went through M’s library. I considered it to be diverse because we have books like A is for Activist and This Little Trailblazer, but we only had two books that featured Black people as the main character. I went online and ordered a bunch of books for her. It was important to me to choose books that are simply regular stories that feature characters from different races as the main character. I used the Instagram accounts @thetinyactivists @hereweread @mahagonybooks and @blackbabybooks to get ideas.
I bought some of them from a Black-owned bookstore in DC, Mahogany Books, and I have been trying to figure out how I can better support Black-owned businesses. Exposing her to diversity at a young age, I think, is really important. I thought that I was doing enough, but when I looked around, I realized I wasn’t.
My friends from my mom’s group and I created an anti-racist book club. We are specifically focusing on parenting and racism.
I became a Patreon of @theconsciouskid because I have already learned so much from their work and because I believe recurring donations are essential. They have so many articles and resources. They also have an option to give $1 per month – with access to everything – if you truly cannot afford more because they want their resources to be accessible to everyone.
Writing this all out seems so inadequate, but it’s a start. This is not about me and I am really just sharing these things because I want you to know that if you don’t know where to start, you can start anywhere. A few accounts that I started following are @diversespines @ckyourprivilege @antiracismctr @ibramxk @privtoprog @blklivesmatter @ibramxk and @booksfordiversity.
It’s time for change. I hope to do better, to make better choices, and to raise M to do better. Lives are depending on it.