July 2, 2020

Hello, friends! What’s new with you? I decided to take a few weeks off of blogging. Now that I’m back let’s catch up.

After lots of debate, Nick and I took M to the beach a few weeks ago. It was my first time in a car, going somewhere besides my house or on a walk, since March. It was M’s first time at the beach! She loved playing in the sand. It was so much fun. I’ve missed the beach so much. There was no one around and I was thinking that this could be our new thing.

But a few days later, Nick had to sign a piece of paper for work stating that he will not do anything “non-essential.” I’m not in the military so I can do whatever I want, but I am going to be doing the same as Nick and not doing anything non-essential for the foreseeable future. It blows my mind that we have been doing this for 3 months already, with no end in sight.

For the most part, it doesn’t bother me to stay home, and I know that not everyone is like me in that way. I love being in my house. But it does wear on me. I miss being able to see my family and friends. I also worry about M’s socialization, but I feel like we just need to get through this first and then we can worry about that.

We also found out recently that we will most likely have to move in the spring/summer. This is devastating to me. I love this area and I want M to be able to experience it after covid passes. I feel like it’s such a good place for a kid to grow up, with DC and Baltimore and Annapolis right here (not to mention the wineries, national park, beach….) We have made such amazing friends here, and some of our military friends have only just moved here. And we’re really close to my family right now. I’m hoping we can stay in the North East, but so much of it is out of our hands. We should know more soon.

I think I’ve been holding up pretty well. On the days that Nick works, I do miss being able to take M to play dates, baby yoga, and library story time. We were in such a good groove before covid hit and our days were filled with so much activity and fun. I’ve had to readjust what our days look like. But I also know what a privilege it is to not have to work during this time, AND take care of a baby.

As far as for me, I’ve been doing lots of yoga and working out. I’ve been reading and writing a lot. And baking a lot. My friends and I have a virtual book club, and I joined another one with my mom’s group specifically to talk about race and parenting.

I have been working on my scrapbook from our trip to Japan. Ever since M was born, I started going through her photos every few weeks and putting them into photo books that I am making online instead of scrapbooks. I have actually been able to keep up with it. I have been crocheting a lot, too, and I have been selling some of my crochet items. See why I don’t mind staying home? I have so many hobbies to keep me busy.

M’s birthday is this month. We were planning to go to Maine for her birthday but that is obviously out of the question. Since M’s birthday is in July and she won’t be in school, I had this idea that every year for her birthday, we would take her on a trip somewhere. Hopefully, we can start that tradition next year. Nick is going to try to take the day off and he’ll bake some cupcakes. I got some decorations to decorate the house for a “book” themed party of 3 because she is absolutely obsessed with books (like mom, like daughter). We’ll get her some presents, hopefully spend some time outside, take a few pictures, and eat cupcakes.

Even though we can’t go on vacation or have people over, I still want to celebrate. I want to make those memories so that one day, we’ll be able to tell M that even though we were going through a tough time, we made time to celebrate. That we made time to run around outside, to bake cupcakes, to to laugh, to live.

My mom always says how important it is to celebrate life every day and that’s the message I want to send to M, especially now. Her birthday isn’t cancelled, it’s just different this year. And you know what? Part of me kind of loves that, this one time, I get her all to myself for her birthday this one time, because that will probably (hopefully) never happen again.

Linking up with Kristen today for What’s New With You?

3 responses to “July Coffee Date”

  1. kristen says:

    i’m similar in the sense that i don’t mind being at home, but it did get to me much quicker than i thought i would. it was terribly lonely, i didn’t realise how much socialisation i got from working or doing other random things. oh, i’m sorry about moving, hope it’s good news when you find out. aw that’s a super sweet way of looking at M’s birthday. hope you all have a lovely day together!

  2. Nadine says:

    Hopefully if you have to move again, it will be a good move that keeps you close to family. I am like you in that I enjoy being home, a lot more than I thought I would, but it does wear on my some days too. I really miss seeing a few family and friends. And just walking around stores.

  3. Audrey says:

    That really stinks that you found solace at the beach and then Nick was no longer able to go 🙁 It sounds like you guys are holding up well, though! I love your thoughts on M’s birthday. It sounds like you made it really special for her & I love that you could have her all to yourself!! SO special!
    We took M to the zoo last week and had masks on hand for inside stuff (the lobby and gift shop) and social distanced from everything/one else. I think she really liked it. We went to the local park on the 4th and let her watch the ducks. It was the quietest, most relaxing holiday I have ever had!

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