June 20, 2018

Grab a cup of coffee and let’s catch up!

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that coming home from the port call was, in some ways, harder than the day Nick left for deployment. I was super jet lagged and really missing him and wondering how I was gonna make it through the rest of deployment, which seems so long.

When Nick left for deployment, it was a much different feeling. A feeling of relief. After two years of mentally preparing for a deployment, I wanted him to go. We were dreading deployment so much that I felt it would be better for him to go so he could hurry up and come home.

The port call was like this stress-free break from deployment. A vacation. It was hard to come home from this awesome vacation after the high of the port call. I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that Nick had to go finish deployment and I had to go back home alone. I kept telling Nick that we shouldn’t be sad it was over, we should be happy it happened, and I kept reminding myself to be grateful we even got the chance to see each other.

It was 100% percent worth it and I would do it again. It’s been hard to get back into my groove, but I am getting there. Getting back into my routine of working out and volunteering helped a lot.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that to help with my post-port-call-blues, I did a bit of retail therapy. Retail therapy usually isn’t my go-to to make myself feel better, but I just felt like going on a shopping spree. I bought a new bag from one of my favorite Etsy sellers, bayanhippo. Then I bought a new pair of jeans and some tops. I think it made me feel better because I’m planning to use all of it when we go on our post-deployment trip to New Zealand and Australia!

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that my friends here also really helped me beat the post-port-call blues. The day I got back, one of my friends and her husband invited me over dinner. They knew I wouldn’t have any food in the house. It was so nice of them and it was so much fun. Plus, they live right down the hall from me, so I got to drink wine with dinner and then walk home. It definitely took my mind off of coming home to an empty house.

The next day, I got groceries but still didn’t feel like cooking. One of my friends, who just finished a deployment herself, made dinner for me. And over the weekend, my friend Julie and her husband dragged me along with them. They “just happened” to be going to my favorite lunch spot on the island asked me to come along. They are one couple I love being the third wheel of.

I have said this on my blog so many times, but there is no way that I would be able to get through this deployment without the support group I have here in Hawaii. My military spouse friends totally know how it feels not only to come home from vacation to no food in your house, but to compound that with the feeling of missing your spouse. I love them for doing everything they did for me this past week. I only hope that I can be as good of a friend to them when it’s their turn.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am getting Lasik in one week! I remember when I first heard about Lasik. I swore I’d never let anyone put lasers in my eyes. But glasses and contacts are annoying and I’m over it.

Surprisingly, I’m not nervous at all for the surgery. It can’t come fast enough! I debated whether or not I should do this over deployment or wait for Nick to be around. I decided to just do it now because I’m really not stressed about it, and I think it will be awesome to have it done when we go on vacation.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that my mom is coming to visit soon. I can’t wait to have her here! We’re planning to relax and read on the beach and shop till we drop. Then, I’m flying back to New York with her. I’m so excited to have a few weeks with my family and friends. And to eat bagels.

So yeah. The past week has been hard, but now, I’m back to my routine, I have groceries in my house, and I have so much to look forward to. I had my pity party and my retail therapy and now I’m ready to finish rocking deployment.

If we were having coffee, what would you tell me?


11 responses to “June Coffee Date”

  1. Julie says:

    Ooh yeah, coming home alone is the worst! You’ve got amazing friends – I’m going to have to have a chat with my friends! 😉

    I wasn’t eligible for LASIK, so ended up doing ICL instead. But I LOVE not having to wear glasses. Life changing!!

  2. Jenn says:

    Josh may be going back to Europe for another rotation and I’ve really been debating going to see him this time. However, I know that leaving will be really hard! I’m glad you got to see Nick and break up the deployment! And your Moms visit should be fun 🙂

  3. Sarah says:

    Oooh good luck with the Lasik eye surgery! I’ve only heard good things about it.

    I’m excited to hear about your adventures with your mom and in New York!! That is going to be so nice and is going to help deployment time pass a lot I am sure.

  4. Audrey says:

    I can’t imagine having to say goodbye again. You guys are SO strong. He’ll be home soon, though. 10 years from now you’ll look back and only remember the joy you felt on that Guam port call and when Nick was back in your arms in Hawaii!
    I think yesterday was National Splurge Day…? Perfect timing to treat yourself to some retail therapy! Your friends sound wonderful! And yay Lasik! K really wants to get it and I’m so hesitant to let him. Lol. Someday I know he’ll push and I’ll say yes.
    Yay for your mom’s visit!

  5. Aw, I am so sorry for your recent struggles but glad that you had good friends to help you get by.
    Ooh, I’d love to see which bag you got!
    How wonderful that you’re getting lasik!!! I was all set to get it a few years ago. I had saved up for it, met the doctors… then we got engaged and I needed wedding money. I’d still love to do it someday. Please update us! I was always nervous about pain with it.

  6. Nadine says:

    I love that you have such an amazing support group! I cant even begin to imagine how hard it was leaving Guam. Retail therapy is my go to for all my feelings lol. I hope you have the best time with your mom!

  7. Jen says:

    YAY for LASIK! I had it done in 2012 and it was the best decision I ever made.

  8. Rachel G says:

    So glad you guys got to have a good vacation together! And wow, Lasik, I’ve heard a lot of good things from everyone who has gotten it! I’m not a fan of getting glasses but I think it would take a lot to convince me to get Lasik. Of course, my eyesight is just good enough that I can go without glasses as long as I’m not driving or needing to see faraway things, haha!

  9. Holly says:

    I’m so glad you have such good military friends! I hope that one day I can have connections like that with other women/couples whenever I move with Andy. It would be nice to have people who just really get it.

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I had an emotional break down earlier this week over missing Andy and having his 2nd deployment finally sink in. It’s not as long as last time, but it still just sucks to not have him available to talk to all the time. I totally get the “hurry up and leave” mentality–leave now so we can get it over with!! I definitely said that a few times and grumbled whenever he would tell me his leaving day got delayed, lol. Weird, but I get it.

    I hope your Lasik goes well!!!

  10. Girl, I can only imagine how hard it must have been to get on that plane after spending all that time with Nick, but like you said you’re happy that you had the time. And it’s so awesome that you have such a great support system in Hawaii, and in your family as well. A trip home to NYC sounds like something that you definitely need!

  11. Anthea says:

    I can imagine how hard it must be having a wonderful time and then having to go home alone.
    It is great that you have a support system.
    Good luck with the Lasik.

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